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Women Can Have the Niqab OR Equality, not Both

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Reason Niqab

Niqab:  My take at Reason.com on the niqab:  “…The notion that niqab offers women freedom or power should be excoriated for the delusion that it is…” more here. One thing I didn’t address, though, is the overlap between covering and polygamy, but the two are connected, as the posts below show.

Related:
Nine Things Saudi Women Still Can’t Do – Express Tribune
The Saudis Pathetic Step Forward for Women – Qanta A. Ahmed
As a Muslim I Think Canada Should Ban the Niqab and Burka in Public – Raheel Raza
Banning the Burka and Niqab – Jerry Coyne w/Maryam Namazie

And heartbreaking words from Niqab wearers:
My Husband Married in Secret – “How do I survive this?” One story from Polygamy 911 (A blog by Fiona for women who suffer from polygamy)

Niqab AND Polygamy Promote Inequality – My Niqab Is My Beauty – “I’ve decided I’m going to take another wife!”

Equal?

These are the words that sent my world into a tailspin. I never thought I would feel the way I do if I heard my husband say those words. For nearly 4 months now, I’ve been unable to get past the pain and betrayal those words have caused in me. A man I loved with everything inside of me, now appears like an enemy to me. At times, I can rationalize with myself and know that the feelings of resentment, abandonment, and betrayal are unjustified, but most of the time, I am swallowed by grief. Most of the time I cry, and get lost inside my own head, and overthink every word and action of his. To make matters worse, I’m almost 5 months pregnant and I can’t help but think how my stress and grief are affecting my baby, but that just makes me more angry with my husband for putting me in this situation at such an emotional time. I love my husband and nothing can take away from the fact that he’s a good husband and father, but I feel he’s no longer mine and it kills me.

On the other hand, this whole situation has brought me closer to my Lord. I have cried and cried and begged Allah to help me bear this. I listen to Qur’an, trying to push the anger and sadness away. I don’t even know how many times I’ve had to say ” I complain of my grief and sorrow only to Allah” to comfort myself. I don’t know what else to do but turn to my Lord and place things in His Hands.

I don’t say all this to bash my husband because at the end of the day, it is his right. But it being his right doesn’t make it any less painful. –

Kazemah

And:  Dear Angelina Jolie – “Hello from Karachi…One of the fights we are still fighting is the right to dress as we choose…”

 

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Written by Caleb Powell

December 20, 2015 at 7:41 am

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  1. I’m the author of the post from ‘my niqab is my beauty’. How dare you use my post to somehow justify your stance that niqab promotes inequality? Are there not plenty of people involved in polygyny who don’t wear niqab? If I were to remove my niqab, does that make it all equal in your eyes? You should be ashamed of yourself. Wearing niqab is my choice. My niqab empowers me and brings me closer to my Lord.. the same Lord Who has given me my rights as a honorable woman in Islam. It’s sad that you’ve let society poison you against niqab, since niqab is most definitely a part of islam. But don’t you dare use my post to try to prove a point.

    kazemah

    December 20, 2015 at 9:29 am

  2. Hello Kazemah, I’m very sorry about your situation but am also confused. Based on your post above, you believe that your husband has a right to do this to you and all you can do about it is pray. Isn’t that the exact opposite of empowered?

    Alisha

    December 20, 2015 at 12:40 pm


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