Jaylen Fryberg: Can We Forgive a Murderer? Should We?
“As a person and mother I am horrified by the actions of my son, I am sickened by it. There is nothing I can do to repair the damage my son has done.” – Susan Bibeau, mother of the killer in Ottawa
Gia Soriano: On Facebook this last weekend our family is sharing a picture of Gia Soriano – Gia is holding our niece as a newborn. Gia died this weekend. She was a victim of the recent Marysville High School shooting, and our condolences, thoughts, and prayers are with the dead and injured and their families: Gia, Zoe Galasso, Andrew Fryberg, Shaylee Chuckulnaskit, as well as Nate Hatch.
Forgiveness: Nate Hatch, a survivor, began Tweeting love and forgiveness to the murderer. We must remember this as an act of murder. We must remember a gun owner’s registered firearm fell into the hands of a teenager. Nate is a kid and gets a pass. But the adult community has rallied around “forgiveness” with a Facebook Page, patting Nate and themselves on the back, boasting about culture. Theirs is a Moral Placebo. We can forgive Nate. But should third parties forgive? Or does their forgiveness only let them feel better about themselves while adding pain to those most affected?
Culture: All cultures incorporate forgiveness. No culture has ownership of “forgiveness.” Cultures can be questioned, if not, we play a perpetual game of Tag, You’re Racist, diminishing real racism. Forgiveness has its place, but when there are still grieving victims, and we still do not know all the facts, we cannot judge, and forgiveness is part of judgment.
Empathy: Take off your shoes, walk barefoot over the rainy October urban and rural landscape, enter the house of the bereaved, and ask them if they would like to give you their shoes. Listen to them. They are victims, they have lost a loved one, only they can talk about forgiveness.
What a Family Member Should Say: It’s said by Ms. Bibeau at the top of the page. Imagine if Jaylen’s family and friends expressed empathy instead of selfishness.
Updates: 10/28 – At present, the murderers page has over 4,000 followers, Gia Soriano’s Facebook Page has less than 500.
10/29: Jaylen Fryberg planned the murder, and looked at women as object. He was not only a murderer, he was a bully and a misogynist: Stop Excusing the Actions of a Murderer by Calling Him “Heartbroken” and Jaylen Fryberg’s Porn Filled Twitter Account
1o/30 Parents & Guardians: When a minor/dependent breaks bad often it means adults are not paying attention, revisit Adam Lanza’s mother stepping deep into the cow pie concerning the Newton Massacre. Jaylen’s Twitter feed has anger, homages to naked women, Tweets to porn sites boasting how “horny” he is, and other warning signs. Jaylen was a bully who got hold of an adult’s firearm. Adults shirked their responsibility. And that’s the lesson.
10/31 – Third victim Shaylee Cuckulnaskit Dies: MSN
11/7 – Fourth victim Adrew Fryberg Dies: KTVB
Bill Maher – Let’s not Memorialize Murderers: “When a priest molests three altar boys, we don’t say, ‘There were four victims, counting Father Tim.’ “